What is a Mindset?

Your mindset is a set of beliefs that shape how you make sense of the world and yourself. It influences how you think, feel, and behave in everyday situations.

Let’s look at two mindsets: fixed and growth.

If you have a fixed mindset, you believe your abilities are fixed traits and can’t be changed. You may also think that your talent and intelligence alone leads to success, and therefore effort is not required. If you have a growth mindset, you believe that your talents and abilities can be developed over time through effort and persistence.

“I’ve seen so many people with this one consuming goal of proving themselves in the classroom, in their careers, and in their relationships. Every situation calls for a confirmation of their intelligence, personality, or character. Every situation is evaluated: Will I succeed or fail? Will I look smart or dumb? Will I be accepted or rejected? Will I feel like a winner or a loser?

— CAROL DWECK

Goals are Good, the Pressure Isn’t

When it comes to goal-setting, some people are dreamers; they have goals for themselves long into the future.

Some may still be on the fence about what to do next, while others may struggle to think about goals in a concrete way.

It’s easy to feel that our parents are transferring their hopes and dreams onto us. Instead of trying to fit a mould, find someone who could come alongside you and offer support.

  • Please focus on the process of goal-setting rather than the goals themselves.
  • Use creative options such as bucket lists or vision boards – either as a family or individually.

Make Space for Failure

Many of us see failure as something to be avoided. However, failure is not the end in a growth mindset, and it doesn’t define you.
Carol Dweck recommends “addressing the setback head-on and talking to your trusted support about the next steps for learning.”

When Things Don’t Go As Planned, Brainstorm Solutions Together

You are the CEO of your life; who have you asked to sit on your board? It would help to surround yourself with advisers who want the best for you.

Watch Your Reactions

Integrate powerful habits into your day that help your mindset change and reinforce your thinking with action. If you upgrade from a “fixed” to a “growth” mindset, set time aside for learning and start noting your lessons learned and achievements daily.

If you want assistance in this area, we would urge you to contact us